Hi Members and Friends,
Today I banned a member for the first time (other than spammers - they don't count). We've been remarkably problem free and don't see the flame wars you see on practically any public site - read the comments in a newspaper lately?
However - people are stressed and may be saying things they wouldn't in another year. If you find yourself replying to another member in a heated manner - just stop. Don't post. And members - if you disagree that's fine - people have different experiences and please acknowledge you both could be right. Directly contradicting another member is just not helpful. Try not to start a flame war and end up banned.
Abraham Lincoln had an interesting coping strategy. Go write a hot letter and don't mail it. I've used this myself lately.
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/opinion/sunday/the-lost-art-of-the-unsent-angry-letter.html
Today I banned a member for the first time (other than spammers - they don't count). We've been remarkably problem free and don't see the flame wars you see on practically any public site - read the comments in a newspaper lately?
However - people are stressed and may be saying things they wouldn't in another year. If you find yourself replying to another member in a heated manner - just stop. Don't post. And members - if you disagree that's fine - people have different experiences and please acknowledge you both could be right. Directly contradicting another member is just not helpful. Try not to start a flame war and end up banned.Abraham Lincoln had an interesting coping strategy. Go write a hot letter and don't mail it. I've used this myself lately.
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/23/opinion/sunday/the-lost-art-of-the-unsent-angry-letter.html
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