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One less John on the Forum

@Hollow-Grind I didn't mention my sexuality. Perhaps my wife of 46 years might want speak to this.

Seriously, DM me with questions, I'm an open book. I think you might misunderstand what I'm announcing.

-- About 100 people on the forum have met me in person. they know me with a beard and called by a name I no longer use. *they* would like to know that my name has changed, and that I might look a little different.
 
I do not see the point of announcing sexuality on a machining forum.
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Not really what that was about. But more than any other I've participated in, this forum seems to be a group a mutually supportive friends who care about one another, and appreciate and care to support the other members in major life events. Things like marriage, divorce, death of a loved one, being diagnosed with a major illness yourself, or taking the step from John to Joni on the journey of discovering who you are.

IIRC John came all the way from Calgary to be at the Vancouver Island meet up last year. Joni, I hope you're able to do so next time! :)
 
Dabbler said:
Seriously, DM me with questions, I'm an open book. I think you might misunderstand what I'm announcing.
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Ok ill admit I too don't understand what or why you're announcing.

I certainly don't expect you to explain yourself on a forum why you make personal choices but it seems to me it was more of a public announcement?

John/Joni I will respect you as a contributing and valuable member of this forum if you continue in the way you have in the past.

Cheers
Don
 
Hollow-Grind said:
I do not see the point of announcing sexuality on a machining forum.
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If we were having an open discussion about sexuality, I'm pretty sure it would soon get added to the religion, politics, and policy taboo list. I don't think we should go there.

However, many members choose to share their life changes with us from deaths to illness, losses, and significant changes. Most members appreciate that. This is not different as long as no discussion arises from it. Let's keep it that way.
 
Welcome to the forum Joni!

I have a tool post grinder in my basement I picked up for a guy on the forum named John. If I don't hear from him for a while I would be willing sell it to you at a 50% mark up to what he paid. (and already sent me) With tariff$, things are getting more expensive all the time. ;)

(But seriously, things are looking good for me being able to deliver it to you this fall)
 
For those wishing a little 'under the covers' about the process, I thought I'd (from time to time) share a hilight or 2...

I just began the process of changing my name legally to Joni. Finger printing, criminal records check, then an official request to change my name legally.... ...but not before I vote! And the clock is ticking. 30 days from the finger print/record check I have to have applied for the name change, or I have to do it all over again! then 14 days to change my license, etc.. About 61 places to change my name in all.

- so doing this is not for faint of heart!!!
 
For the past 2 weeks, I have been in a wonderful, comforting (and a little embarrassing) bubble of support! Yesterday the outside world burst the bubble - in a overt way.

I was invited to a 94th birthday party for "B" a friend of 47 years. He is normally a homophobic, transphobic person. "B" has seen me with nail polish, earrings, and pony tail in public with no issues. His son, and a supposed ally teamed up to revoke my invite - to a public place "come all" birthday lunch "because of my lifestyle". For many years I was "B"'s only support, his only friend (despite our viewpoint differences).

My remedy was to take "B" to lunch that morning dressed in DRAB. He was effusive, thankful and very present during the entire lunch. Only later did I find out that the 'ally' had revealed to "B" that I am trans, and whipped up fears I would show up in a dress and makeup. Sigh. So despite their best efforts at mischief, it went really well.

I easily identified the "ally" BTW - he took actions that he was in a unique position to do, exposing his identity. I feel bad to lose a supposed friend of 33 years, a avowed "ally", a person I have helped out a lot over those years.
 
Sigh. When the Lord gave us free will, He maybe didn’t figure on how many of us would use it to be sneaky a-holes. You didn’t lose a friend, because friends love you no matter what you look like.
 
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